You will probably never read this because you have no idea who I am. You probably don’t even remember what you did but why not just talk about it anyway?
I still wonder what you were thinking, sticking your hand up my skirt. You did it in passing. Casually, like it’s something one would just do every now and then. Not brushing slightly against it, not accidentally touching it because you were in a hurry. ALL. THE. WAY. UP. UNDER. THE. DAMN. FABRIC. Don’t tell me there wasn’t enough room for your cold, bony fingers to go elsewhere on a perfectly empty escalator as you were walking up the stairs.
Some may say that I shouldn’t make a big deal out of this. That these things happen and that I should maybe even be “grateful” you found me attractive enough to touch me. I know such people and I wonder how much respect they have for themselves (and others) given their way of thinking.
I don’t see any show of affection or attraction here. What I see is some self righteous coward. You are a coward, sir, because apparently this is the only way you can manage to get your hands on a woman instead of just having the balls to approach one the normal way.
I bet you can’t stand rejection. I bet this is why you do things like that. You compensate your own failure by pretending to own the world. You think you can do whatever the hell you want because you are a man and all the women in this world could be at your feet in an instant if only you wanted them to. You are the sexiest beast on earth, you think, but you just didn’t feel like making use of that today, am I right? Today you just wanted something quick. To remind yourself of how great you can be if only you want to.
Just because you think I have a nice body doesn’t give you the right to touch it in inappropriate places when you feel like it. Regardless of whether I am single or married. I don’t care if this doesn’t count as assault to you or anyone who shrugs their shoulders at this. You want something from a person, you ask for it first! Just like you may not take a picture of someone without their permission, you may not grab them and check out their body parts for softness like they are a piece of fruit on a market stand!
If she’s wearing a skirt, if she’s showing too much skin, she’s asking for it, they say. “This is a dangerous place for women. If you walk down the street in the evening wearing the dress you have on now, there will be consequences”, a woman told me during my very first days in Latin Amrica. But wearing skirts or dresses is entirely irrelevant to this issue!
Let me tell you something: Not every person is into short skirts. Not everyone gets their brains blown out at the sight of legs. It is NOT up to me or any woman for that matter, to account for every single taste that’s out there and consider the consequences for each outfit when getting dressed! It’s about people of any gender keeping their shit together when their brains get fried from deprivation of sex.
I had men who were old enough to be my (grand) father whistle at me in the streets of Riyadh as I walked by, dressed in an abaya with a hijab on my head. Black from head to toe, shaped like a walking tent. So don’t you dare telling me or any other woman that clothes are the problem. Men who catcall after women or try to get their hands on them without permission are the type of men who will do such a thing regardless of what a woman is wearing. The fact that she’s a woman (or a man if the harasser is female) is enough to get them going. THAT plus their own imagination is all it really takes.
That said, you are not being nice, you are not being masculine, you are not doing me a favor. You are being a disgusting coward, sir.
Contains edits from December 2019